Modern Parenting

“We want to see the child in pursuit of knowledge, not knowledge in pursuit of the child.” —George Bernard Shaw, Author

Poems are Made by ‘Fools’ Like Him, My Dad, 95 Years Old

June 18, 2017

My dad is 95 Years Old. He will be 96 in December. I asked him recently if he’d ever thought of being a poet. I was surprised to hear his answer. My father was born in 1921 in Oklahoma. He referred to his family as dirt poor because they lived in one bedroom shacks with … Read more

Unschooling My High School Son, ISFPs and 13 Reasons Why

April 26, 2017

It’s almost 10:30 AM, and I’ve been sitting at my desk since 7 AM. I know I should get up and walk around. If only I had one of those chairs that ejected me every hour or some flashing alarm that made me get up to turn it off. I have an Alexa; maybe I … Read more

Flesh & Blood

August 16, 2016

I was three years old when my parents first decided to become foster parents. By the time Joanne arrived at our house, I was used to the revolving door of youth. In fact, I became addicted to the anticipation of new arrivals. Joanne was the ninth or tenth. I’d lost count. My parents never had … Read more

Summertime Stepmom

July 29, 2016

I am a stepmom. My stepdaughter is in her 20s. I’ve been her stepmom since her 9th birthday. I think of myself as a summertime stepmom because that’s what I was. At least for a decade of her life from ages nine to nineteen. Stepping through the years, I’ve watched her grow from a little … Read more

Overcoming My Childhood from the Daughter of an Alcoholic Father

May 14, 2016

Do you need Al-Anon? Do I need Al-Anon? Are you a child of an alcoholic father? parent? I know a lot of people who come from at least one parent who has one addiction or another. I had an alcoholic father. He isn’t dead but he is 92 now so he doesn’t really drink anymore. … Read more

10 Reasons Losing Your Virginity on Prom Night is DUMB

April 15, 2016

Prom night. Not my prom, I was a sophomore. He was a Junior.  It was his prom. Junior prom. Dinner, the dance and then everyone rented hotel rooms. My mom didn’t know about the hotel room part. He thought tonight was the night. He thought he could convince me to have sex. He thought I’d cave. Give … Read more

Different

October 6, 2015

Discombobulated at a psychologist’s office. Quiet except the sound of the AC fan, copier, faint voices and a low playing, garbled radio. …

The Desensitization of our Youth

October 4, 2015

With mass shootings being the new norm here in the Wild West, I want to go on record and say THIS VIOLENCE HAS TO STOP! We must come together as a country, as a nation, as human beings, as mothers and fathers and stop this madness. Stop this culture of violence. Why are we so focused … Read more

I’m a Good Daughter

July 31, 2015

My father is an obstinate man. If I tell him it’s raining, he tells me it’s not, literally. One day, I commented to him how interesting it was for a painter to paint a cow bright red, and he replied matter of factly, “There are red cows, I’ve seen them.” He is convinced that my … Read more

One Mom’s Take on the Crazy U.S. Gun Laws

July 10, 2015

I have no problem with the right to bear arms Let me repeat … I HAVE NO PROBLEM WITH THE RIGHT TO BEAR ARMS but aren’t we just a tad bit extreme? Europeans think we are crazy but what do they know? We are THE SUPERPOWER so fuck them, right? But let’s assume we care … Read more

My House, My Rules

April 15, 2015

I’ve been writing ever since I can remember. I’ve had journals since I was old enough to write. I saved them, all of them. Until my mom read my journal when I was 13. Not the age you want your mom reading your journal. I had a lot to hide. Mostly about boys. Looking back, … Read more

A Minecraft Mind

March 17, 2015

A fucking “F.” Can you believe that shit? An F! Remain calm Marla. You must remain calm. You must quietly walk toward the living room. Step away from the backpack. Step away from the backpack. Take a deep breath. Go to the balcony. I’m going to go to the balcony. In my head. Find my … Read more

6 Reasons Why 3 Children are the Tipping Point

January 19, 2015

I started out with one child like most of us do. Then, three and a half years later I ended up having twins so I jumped from one to three over night, literally. Now, I have to admit when I had just one my attitude was a little different, and I can honestly say that … Read more

Why You Should Never Open Your Door to Strangers

January 14, 2015

My first memory as a child was my mom telling me to go back to bed. I was 3 years old. I was standing in the dark hallway with my blankie squeezed up to my face, and my mom looked very nervous. I heard a knock on the door. I realized this is what woke … Read more

11 Things NOT TO SAY to a Mom with Twins

October 18, 2014

I have twins. They are 8 years old now. And I can tell you after almost 9 years of having twins there are some things people say that really PISS ME OFF. There are also things that are NOT SAID that PISS ME OFF. So either way you are treading on THIN ICE when speaking … Read more

It’s Just a Slap

September 28, 2014

As I was sitting in a therapist’s office for the first time in my life this week, I wasn’t sure what to think. I began to speak, but then she stopped me. “Hold on. Before we talk, I want to inform you regarding the things I’m required to report to authorities.” Okay. I thought. Did … Read more

Victoria’s Secret and Porn

June 28, 2014

My 11 year old boy likes to Google girls in bras and underwear. I found it in his search thread on his phone. I noticed he was spending a lot of time in the bathroom on his phone. I talked to him about searching porn on the internet. Told him that he might see something … Read more

Unplug, It’s Good for the Family

May 5, 2014

I do not like technology. Actually, I do. I always have, but I am really torn with regard to the amount of technology that should be made available to my children. I have taken a lot of steps to simplify our life but we still have a long way to go. For me, simplifying includes … Read more

Ode to a 6th Grader

April 28, 2014

He spaced. I yelled. He spaced. I stared. He spaced. I smiled. He spaced. I looked.

The Casual Mom, Not My Thing

March 19, 2014

I HAVE THREE children under the age of 12. I’m not big on playdates. It’s not that I don’t like playdates or want my children to have fun, I just need to know the parents. I need to know that they have the same values as our family. I need to know that other parents … Read more